Pro Sports Wives: Signs of Domestic Abuse & Violence

Did you know domestic violence affects 1 out of 3 women worldwide? Domestic (also called spousal) abuse occurs when one person in an intimate relationship or marriage tries to dominate and control the other person. When this domestic abuse includes physical violence OR violent threats it is referred to as domestic violence. As a [pro athlete’s] wife, it is extremely important for YOU to recognize the signs of domestic violence and abuse due to the alarming trend of offenses of male athletes.

The media has reported on countless male athletes who have perpetrated violent offenses against their wives or girlfriends. Research has not definitively proven domestic violence and abuse are higher in male athletes OR if they are highlighted because of their status. But to give you an idea of statistics, in 2010 Jeff Benedict, an English professor at Southern Virginia University released a thorough examination of arrests of professional and college athletes within a 6 month period. He found that out of 125 athletes arrested, domestic violence cases accounted for nearly 20%.

Domestic abuse often escalates from verbal abuse and threats to actual physical violence or domestic violence. Many women may not recognize abuse if it does not come in the form of physical violence. Sexual abuse is also a form of physical abuse. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging psychologically by destroying your self-worth, which leads to symptoms of depression and anxiety. Financial abuse is also a form of emotional abuse.

Below is a list of some common signs of domestic violence and abuse to raise YOUR awareness of this epidemic and how it may possibly be affecting YOU.

Signs of Domestic Violence:

Your spouse or partner:

  • Hurts you, or threatens to hurt or kill you
  • Has a bad and unpredictable tempter
  • Forces you to have sex
  • Destroys your belongings
  • Threatens to take your children away

Signs of Abuse:

You:

  • Feel afraid most of the time around your partner
  • Are regularly humiliated or yelled at by your partner
  • Are criticized and put down by your partner
  • Are blamed for your partner’s own abusive behavior
  • Are kept from seeing your friends or family
  • Have limited access to money, the phone, or the car
Porsha Williams, LAMFT Pwilliams@ GROWcounseling.com

Porsha Jones, LAMFT
Pwilliams@ GROWcounseling.com

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Former NFL Commish vacates ‘bounty-gate’ bans

Citing “contamination” by the coaches and others in the New Orleans’ Saints organization, former NFL commissioner Paul Tagliabue vacated the suspensions of the four Saints and former Saints who had been issued bans by current commissioner Roger Goodell. Continue reading

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Was Colorado coach Jon Embree’s firing racially motivated?

Colorado Buffaloes’ head coach Jon Embree was fired Sunday, only two years into a five-year deal he signed back in December of 2010. Speculation has run rampant that Embree was fired so abruptly because of his skin color. Continue reading

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Cut by Eagles, Jason Babin now a Jaguar

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Babin has been having a miserable season after registering a career-high 18 sacks last year. Babin has only been able to register 5.5 sacks after 11 games with the Eagles this season. He had almost twice as many sacks by this time last year. Continue reading

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Another win, another Falcons’ player arrested

It’s obvious the Atlanta Falcons don’t deal well with success. Last week running back Michael Turner was arrested for DUI following Atlanta’s win over the Denver Broncos, this week defensive end John Abraham joins him in the ink blotter.

Abraham was arrested Monday on two counts of obstruction and was confined to the Fulton County Jail. His bail was set at $7,000. Continue reading

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Prototype, smototype: Seahawks’ Russell Wilson can play

Five NFL teams have given the keys to their offenses to a rookie quarterback. Now while all five of these rookies have some things in common there is one thing about Seattle Seahawks rookie quarterback Russell Wilson that stands out more than the others: his height.

Andrew Luck and Ryan Tannehill are both 6-4, Brandon Weeden is 6-3. Rookie sensation Robert Griffin III is 6-2 which is usually the minimal height scouts and football experts expect a quarterback to be in order to be successful in the NFL but Wilson is only 5-11. Continue reading

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Falcons RB Michael Turner arrested for DUI after win

Atlanta Falcons running back Michael Turner is having his worst season statistically since joining the Falcons back in 2008. Early Tuesday morning, Turner added to his on-field struggles with an off-the-field incident.

Only hours after the Falcons Monday night defeat of the Denver Broncos, Turner would be arrested for driving under the influence and speeding on Interstate 85 northeast of Atlanta. He was pulled over for driving 97 mph in a 65-mph zone.

Turner failed a sobriety after being pulled over by a Gwinnett County officer and was confined to the Gwinnett County metro jail until he was able to make bail.

Turner not only has to face DUI charges, he may also face a suspension by NFL Commissioner Roger Goodell for his actions. Hope the celebration was worth it because his pockets will definitely be a little lighter once this situation is concluded.

Roosevelt Hall is a Sports Reporter for Pro Sports Lives. He is also an NFL Blogger for The Sport Mentalist and an NBA Blogger for The Sport Mentalist 2. He can be contacted at Sportmentalist@Yahoo.com and be sure to follow him on Twitter @sportmentalist.

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RG3 impresses in NFL debut

Robert Griffin III didn’t take long to make a splash in the NFL. Of the record five rookie quarterbacks who started for their teams during Week 1, Griffin was the only one who was able to deliver a win for his team.

Griffin had the best day ever for a rookie quarterback starting in his first ever NFL game. He led the Washington Redskins to a 40-32 victory over the New Orleans Saints by completing 19 of his 26 passes for 320 yards, two touchdowns and no interceptions. Continue reading

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A tribute to Reggie Miller

Shooting guard Reggie Miller was a force for the Indiana Pacers for 18 seasons. During that time he filled up highlight reels with his clutch shooting, his most notable moments coming against the New York Knicks.

Miller was a scoring machine who could get hot at almost any moment during a game but he always seemed to save his best for the game’s final minutes. Continue reading

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Burfict ending: Vontaze Burfict makes Bengals 53-man roster

The Cincinnati Bengals took a chance on troubled rookie free agent linebacker Vontaze Burfict and it paid off for them. Burfict has played well for them this offseason and on top of that he has been a model citizen so far.

This is especially surprising when you look at Burfict’s history of off-the-field incidents during his college days at Arizona State. A lot of high profile NFL players have found themselves on the wrong side of the law this offseason but Burfict has managed to keep himself out of the ink blotter so far. Continue reading

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